From Impostor to Leader: Overcoming Self-Doubt

Sometimes, a single sentence can shape the way we see ourselves. It can either build confidence or plant seeds of doubt that linger for years. In the workplace, managers and leaders hold a unique power to influence career trajectories, often without realizing it.

The Power of a Single Comment

When I was in my mid-30s, a seemingly routine conversation with my boss completely shifted how I saw my career. I was finishing my undergraduate degree while juggling work and family life when my boss casually asked, "What are your next career goals?"

Before I could even answer, she followed up with, "I don't see you as a manager."

Ouch.

She probably thought she was helping, guiding me away from a path she didn’t think suited me. She likely doesn’t even remember saying it. But I do. That single sentence stayed with me for over a decade, whispering doubts into my mind every time I considered stepping into leadership.

I carried that comment into new roles, new industries, and new opportunities, letting it fuel my imposter syndrome. Every time I hesitated to step outside my comfort zone, that little voice echoed: I don’t see you as a manager.

When Managers (Unintentionally) Create Imposter Syndrome

My story isn’t unique. Many aspiring leaders have had their confidence shaken by a throwaway comment from a manager. Leaders have enormous influence over their teams, and even an offhand remark can become a defining moment in someone's career.

Imposter syndrome—feeling like a fraud despite evidence of success—can be triggered by many factors: perfectionism, self-doubt, fear of failure. But sometimes, it just takes one sentence to confirm every insecurity you've ever had.

The good news? Imposter syndrome can be tackled from both sides—by individuals and by managers who want to foster inclusive, supportive workplaces.

Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: What You Can Do

If you’ve ever doubted your abilities or felt like an imposter in your own success, here are some ways to push past it:

• Self-Reflection: Take stock of your accomplishments. Look at everything you've achieved—not just at work, but in life.

  
  

• Seek Support: Talk to friends, mentors, or colleagues who can remind you of your strengths.

  
  

• Set Goals: Break down career aspirations into manageable steps and celebrate small wins along the way.

  
  

• Continuous Learning: Build your skills to boost confidence in your expertise.

  
  

• Positive Self-Talk: Drown out the negative voice with affirmations about your capabilities.

  
  

• Challenge Assumptions: Get feedback from trusted leaders to gain clarity and a fresh perspective.

  
  

• Mentorship: Seek guidance from those who have been where you want to go.

  
  

• Take Risks: Say yes to new challenges. Apply for leadership roles. Put yourself out there.

How Managers Can Help Break the Cycle

Managers play a crucial role in either reinforcing or dismantling imposter syndrome. Here’s how to build a culture of confidence:

• Be mindful of your words. What seems like a passing comment to you can stick with an employee for years.

  
  

• Encourage growth. Provide constructive feedback and support rather than ruling out someone's potential.

  
  

• Recognize strengths. Help employees see what they bring to the table and where they shine.

  
  

• Offer opportunities. Give people a chance to take on leadership roles, even in small ways.

  
  

• Foster inclusivity. Ensure every employee, regardless of background, feels empowered to chase their goals.

The Road to Leadership

Over time, I rebuilt my confidence. I took on more responsibilities, proved my capabilities, and sought out growth opportunities. But when a leadership position opened up years later, I still hesitated. That voice was still there: I don’t see you as a manager.

Then, something amazing happened. My current manager and another leader I respected encouraged me to apply. A single one-on-one conversation gave me the push I needed to get out of my own way.

I applied. I got the job.

Now, as a leader, I strive to be the kind of manager who lifts people up, not holds them back. I know how much words matter, and I use mine to inspire confidence, not doubt. My goal is to help my team focus on their strengths and keep imposter syndrome from stalling their growth.

So if you're doubting yourself, let me be the voice that says: You are capable. You are ready. And you belong here.